3 basics for healthy relations I

Life has evolved at this stag that, our life is getting busier.

 We don't have time for our loved one. You

 forget to give space to your loved one and that 

always bring relations problem. It's certain because 

our busy life schedule, we simply avoid communication or 

don't have time for it. I just want to tell here, we have to 

always give space for our loved one. Here i would talk 

about 3 basics of relationship. The most important thing

Relations advice

 is that these basic are interdependent on each other. 

First, i would talk about TIME: time is the most 

important factor for healthy relationship. 

Someone said it right, "the best gift, one can ever give to your loved one is time" give as much time as you can to your loved one, because it will allow you to show your actual feeling, how much your care? You understand? You affectionate? Time will simply give you moments to share your ecstasy with your loved one. Mine opinion is that, if you give an expensive gift, like ring, watches etc. 

It may get lost or broken with time. But, if you give some moments of your life, than those moments will always be engraved in heart and mind. So, its not that hard to give some time to our loved one. In-fact we can enjoy every moments together. 

So just a request promise within your self from today you will give as much time as you can with your loved one. The best example would be going out for a weekend with your loved one. I have followed it, and i am with my girlfriend since last 6 year. The next basics of relation i would continue in my next post. Enjoy reading.

How do i get her out of my heart and my mind?

"It already have been a week she left me, but still i can't get her out of my heart and my mind. These week came out to be the worst and catastrophic week ever in my life. My whole world as if is haunting and coming toward me. I have been in my bed since that day, don't feel hunger or sleep also. I have been lighting up a cigar and indulge in drinking a wine. I tried everything to get her out of my heart, but i don't know, why i can't! May be it because she meant the whole world for me. 
i don't think that anything ever can change my feeling for her" hmm  

broken heart

Most of the people after get broken up in relations does this and its not new. Many of mine friend experienced this situation. I simple used to say with time everything will be fine but truth is that no one can understand that feeling, unless you go through such condition. 
I am normal being, so i too have experienced this a year back and follow some simple thing, which everyone know but never implement it. I would write here what i did to get out of those hard throbbing condition. Yes, most of the time tears or sobbing comes to be best solution to get out of such situation. I cried a lot and it really helped me and second thing i did was i tried to put myself on busy schedule.
 I went to my job and indulged busily in work, in my free time i talked with my family. My mom, sister. Sorry to tell you my father passed away. During a weekends i spent my time with my college friends. I made my self very busy, although sometime in midst of my busy schedule my heart start to think about her, tear flows for some time. But again i start my busy schedule.
 So i got out of this situation this way. It may not work for everyone, but it will work with most of us! If u like it please do comment and even you have any other resolution please do share it so it can help some one.

How much i love you?

Once their lived a couples, they were very happy with each other. They used to share their happiness and were compassionate about each other, share their intimacy, love and care for each other. So they planned to get married, they got married.

So in this way: days turned in weeks, weeks to months and then months to years.  6 years of their marriage got passed. They still had a happy life, but things got changed a lot. And soon their started some relations clashes, because of wife thinking that his husband didn’t gave enough time for her. The husband usually did go to his job and cam back to home and try to give as much time he can to his wife. The reason being, very tired, the wife start gets a feeling that his husband is no more interested with her. He doesn’t give much time to her. She cannot share her joyful and good moments. She started having a feeling that she was now not happy with her husband. There grew a lot of misunderstanding.  She thought of seeking her husband for the divorce as she was not anymore happy with her husband. So one evening when her husband was back from the work, she talked that she was not happy with their married life. It wasn't working good and she want a divorce. Husband didn't say any thing he just went to light up a cigar and then came back asking her; that what is the problems?

Wife heat throbbed in pain and she started lamenting that, he doesn't give much time to her and all the fantasy she got is no more present in their life. So she wants a divorce.

Husband simply asked, “What I can do to make you feel that how much I love you?”

Wife replied, “Can you bring me the diamond that exists in our myths story?”

Husband thought on for a while, thinking some thing and left her.

Ok I will give you reply tomorrow. The wife with the tears in her went to her bed and slept.

The next morning wife didn't found her husband next to him, but saw a small envelope in table. When she opened the envelope and she started reading out and tear swept from eyes.

In that letter it was written,

“all the memories that we shared, all the moments we were together were the best moments of my life, and if its your wish that I get that myths diamond which doesn't even exists, I will bring that one for you, if I fail I would rather commit suicide and end up myself, but yes my love for you never change and I have always loved you”

Love the one And not what they have?

Once a boy loved a girl very much. He was very caring and affectionate
toward her.
The girl also liked and love him.
So, one day boy made a proposal of marriage to the girl.
The boy on girl reply was shocked! Girl  replied, " i love you, but i
can't marry you because won't be happy with you, you are not rich and
can't fulfill all the wishes of my life."
boy didn't say anything and left with a tear and heart being throbbed in pain.
Since that day boy was never seen. The girl to missed him. But didn't
care at all.
Time moved on!
Day turned to weeks, weeks to months, and months to years.
The girl got married with a rich person working as manager.
They live happy life. And in fact she was very happy, with her husband.
She also got one kid.
And they live their life happily.
One day the woman was with her kid at some shopping complex, when some
said, hello! In a known tone. When girl looked back, she saw her past
standing in front of her. The boy asked, how are you?
She replied, i am fine. And how about you? The moment her husband came
from back and said hey honey you know him. He is my boss, and he is
not married yet. He till the moment is not married, because he loved a
girl but girl didn't want to marry at that time he wasn't rich.
The girl didn't have any answer she was full of tear. And the boy left them.
This normally happens, because, we go after transitory things and not
after the feeling. So try to understand importance of our loved one.

in search of love

In search of love A boy and girl loved each other. They shared happiness, care and understanding. The boy always wanted girl to have a happy life but he was not rich enough. According to their place myths their was a mountain, where if one make wish and jump from that mountain his wishes get fulfiled. So, one morning he left the girl. With a note on bed side. "from today on ward you will be most happy person in the world" girl thought his boy friend left him and start crying. Day passed and passed, and things changed a lot.
 But the boy never returned. So, girl returned to her normal life but always thought of his were in her mind. After a couple of year, girl get married someone who was rich and that person love her very much and she start forgeting everything. 
And she was realy happy again. They also got kid. She already forgot her past. Then suddenly one day her past boyfriend appeared before her and lamented her the entire story, how he jumped off that mountain making, a wish, he didnt die. Some people found him drown in river. And he told that he was in comma since past 7 year. On that moment a boy appeared before them with a baby in his hand asking, hey honey lets go home. Boy was in catastrophe but he didnt say anything. He smiled watcing his tatto engraved with her name in it, and said " i wrote her name in my hand because she wasn't written in my destiny" and left. What i want to say hear, is it doesn't matter, who your? The things that matter is love. Their is no secret of happiness, because where their is love, always their exists happiness

you were a missing part of my Heart!!!

A Short story to make you all understand: how frustration can bring an huge catastrophe condition to a relationship,
so please friend avoid it!!!
Boy proposed his girlfriend, love of his life for marriage

Girl : Tell me... who do you love most in this world..?
Boy :  of course  you honey!
Girl : Hmmm! what am I to you?
Boy: The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said
"you are the missing part of my 
Heart"
She smiled, and she accepted his proposal. 
After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while. However,the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems...their life became difficult.

All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to drift away their dreams and love for each other...The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became make their relation more worst.
One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house.... At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, “You don't love me...!"
The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, said, “May be, it was a mistake for us to be together..! You were never the missing part of my  !"
Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while.... He regretted what he said but words spoken can’t be taken back.
With tears in her eyes, she went home to pack her things and Before leaving the house, she left a note for him:
"If I'm really not the missing part of you , let me go..n search for someone who is...It is less painful this way... let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners..."

Five years went by....
He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly..... . She had left the country and was living her dreams.
He use to regret on what he did but never tried to bring her back.. In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he was missing her.....
One day, they finally met.... At the airport, He was going away on a business trip .He saw her, She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.
Boy: How are you? 
Girl: I'm fine. How about you... Have you found your heart's missing part...?
Boy: No.

you were the missing part of my heart!

Girl: I'll be flying to New York in the next flight.
Boy: I'll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back...You knows my number.... Nothing has changed.
With a smile, she turned around and waved good-bye..
"Good-bye . . ."
Same evening he heard of a plane crash which was headed to New York. He tried to know about her and found that, She died.
Midnight..... Once again, he lit his cigarette..... And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart.... He finally knew, she was that missing part that he had carelessly broken . . .
Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury..... We take out our 99% frustrations at our loved ones.... And even though we know that we ought to "think twice and act wisely", we actually don’t do it. Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control.
Try not to hurt your loved once, because a moment of anger cud b a life time punishment..

Changes...

Life changes and goes on and simply we can't do much except 
accepting the way it want us to go through. we are born than 
eventually with time we grow up, reach a younger age and
 later on adolescence and then grow up older and die. in every 
sphere and stag of life we start getting change.
Here i will not write about the physical changes.
But i would rather write about how with a passage
 time the relations get changed:
every relationship begins with a lots and lots of promises, and
 its not wrong because according to human nature, "the thing
 which we don't acquire, is always more attached with us 
and we try very hard to make it our's "

CHANGES

and people says as we already acquire something, it value 
get lessen, but the true fact is especially in
 relationship: expectation goes on increasing with a parlance of time.
i can give you a good example over here:
 initially in any relationship one become fond of opposite person. 
it just because of law of attraction between two opposite person's.
 and with time things goes on changing and that mere attraction changes 
to some deep feeling and attachments and it starts a cumbersome feeling's
 of trust, fear of losing loved one.
it happens in 99% of the cases. because insecurity is in the human nature.